Monthly Archives: March 2010
Pushing 40 the songwriter Kara DioGuardi decided that maybe posing in a bikini on the cover of American Woman magazine would help enhance her career.
Well no wonder why posing half-naked on the cover of a tabloid did in fact gain her some recognition. You go Kara. She says that her family doesn’t hesitate to tell her when her figure is falling from top-notch.
“Someone [close to me] said, ‘You may want to work on your arms — they’re a little jiggly,'” she says.
If someone said that to me, especially a member of my family I think they would get smacked.
Her body is in great shape, although she said that this “defining moment” helped her fit in with her fellow judges on American Idol. Hello? Do you really think Simon Cowell cares about your opinion when he has images of your cleavage and bare thighs dancing around in his brain?
Guerrilla Girls is an organization committed to building a larger recognition of the lack of art shown by women and people of color in museums throughout the world. They also discuss discrimination in film, politics, pop culture and other issue they feel like dabbing into.
These women dedicate their time creating posters and writing books that display the flaws and inequality in the world of art. They hold workshops in states all across the country and in several parts of the world and wear gorilla masks to keep their identities a secret.
Here is a part of an interview with the Guerrilla Girls on their webpage.
Q. But, isn’t judging art an issue of quality? If women and artists of color were really good, wouldn’t they make it on their own?
“The world of High Art, the kind that gets into museums and history books, is run by a very small group of people. Our posters have proved over and over again that these people, no matter how smart or good-intentioned, have been biased against women and artists of color,” said Lee Krasner.
“Success in art is a matter of luck and timing as well as being good or having talent. Why do white men seem to have all the luck? It’s not just a happy accident. Thus far, and throughout history, the system has been set up to support and promote the work of white male artists. That is their luck. In the old days of Western culture, it was patronage and the atelier system. It’s not that different now, though patronage doesn’t come in the form of royal courts and the Roman Catholic Church, but in the form of gallery owners, collectors, critics and museums who back certain artists. Once enough money has been invested in a certain artist, everyone mobilizes to keep that artist’s name out front and consequently in history. The artists who make it in this way begin to define quality,” said Romaine Brooks.
““Quality” has always been used to keep women and artists of color out,” said Alma Thomas.
“To make up for what’s happened so far in art history, every show should be 99% women and artists of color, but only for the next 400 years,” said Georgia O’Keeffe.
I read this article and I thought I should let you read the best part first.
“In the United States, you see all these beautiful skinny people on television, and yet Americans keep getting fatter anyway,” said Sasaki, the public health expert at Tokyo University. “Why is that?”
I’m not going to lie. It made me chuckle. But why is that? It’s a fairly relative point. We do see these gorgeous, anorexic, air brushed women spread all throughout the media and society claims that this is the look we aim to achieve so why is 35% of American women obese? Do we as Americans eat our feelings when we see these women we will probably never look like?
Japanese women look at these women in tabloids and she it as encouragement and motivation. 70-year-old Michie Takagi has a body mass index of 19.9 and she thinks that she is fat. Your BMI is your weight in relation to your height. A BMI of 19.9 is around 90 pounds.
“Middle-aged women have the mistaken view that they are all getting fat,” said Satoshi Sasaki, a professor of preventive epidemiology at the University of Tokyo School of Public Health.
They have a completely different outlook in Japan. We worry about men judging our bodies. Japanese women are more critical of each other’s bodies.
Do we not do that, notice how much weight someone has lost or gained? Are we not envious when we see they’ve shed pounds?
“But the real reason why women want to be thin is so they can look at themselves in the mirror and compare themselves to other women,” said Sakiko Ohno, a cosmetics wholesaler in Tokyo.
“They want other people to be fatter than themselves. It is complicated, competitive and so subtle. The critical eye is ubiquitous,” said Hisako Watanabe, a child psychiatrist and assistant professor of pediatrics at the Keio University School of Medicine in Tokyo.
“There is a pervasive habit among women to monitor each other with a serious sharp eye to see what kind of slimness they have,” said Watanabe.
Maybe if we all knew each other personally than we wouldn’t be so critical of the exterior? So much for that. I don’t think people should try to lose weight for anyone but themselves.
Oscar nominee Mo’Nique raves about how comfortable she is being in an open marriage with her husband.
She has never had sex outside of her marriage but he is free to do so. She is married to her third husband, Sid Hicks and she claims that if she found out he was sleeping with another woman that it wouldn’t be a problem.
Most people don’t respond well to relationships that aren’t monogamous. I wonder what society thinks of these two being open to breaking tradition?
I don’t know what ended Mo’Nique’s previous marriages but obviously her logic must be skewed on what can make a relationship work. Any woman in her right mind would go on a serious, jealous rage if she found out her husband was sleeping with someone else.
But she says that she trusts her husband entirely and that there is no worrying about adultery because they both gave each other permission to commit it. They have been friends for over 25 years and they say that they know who each other is.
I think this cavalier attitude about being open in marriage totally contradicts the whole point of being married and sharing your life with another person.
When I was in high school I had absolutely no desire to have kids. My mom told me that she thought the same way when she was that age. My decision did change over the years and I wouldn’t mind having kids one day. But for some women even those that have been married for 5-10 years have no intention on ever having kids.
I work with very different women at my job.
Julia is 31 and has been married for over 10 years and has no children nor does she plan on having any. Lini is 27 and has been married for over 5 years and doesn’t plan on having any children. Julia is simply annoyed by kids. She finds puppies cuter than two year olds. Lini is not willing to sacrifice her freedom or lifestyle to have children. They seem very confident in their decision and informed there families long ago that they don’t ever plan on having kids.
I like to pick on little kids and mess with them. People ask me if I ever want to have kids like they’re offended by my lack of respect for them. Kids are kids. They’re goofy so I’m going to be goofy right back.
Anyway, I work with a woman named Christina who is married with four children. We were talking one day about Julia and Lini’s decision to never have children and Christina said that it is unfare and wrong that they chose not to. That hit a nerve. I don’t like the idea that women are expected to have children. Christina says women should have babies because there are people in the world who cannot. I’m sorry but if I was a person who didn’t want to have children I would not want to be told by the world that I am being unjust to those who can’t.
We have the divine right to choose and just because we have the biological capability does not mean that we have to have children.
Read this interesting article about this woman who believes that children are a “threat to the planet and its future.”